Where did it go wrong..!!

A wise one once told me.,

you'll meet so many people in life...one, known to you (friends, best friends, colleagues ., and the list goes on) and the other one, strangers.

you must be ...aah I know how to converse with known people...cool, now I should learn how to handle unknown things.EASY..!!

But, let me tell you, dear 

It's always easy to converse with strangers. you expect nothing from them! neither you want to impress, befriend nor they. It's a completely need basis 

It's a piece of cake to interact with "not-so-good "relations
You are always on guard, your mind never takes anything they say seriously, even if you're wrong there'll always be some "reason" and you mostly follow what you think and believe to be correct when you interact with your bitter relations.

Now the pickle is,
It seems easy to interact with "best people" because you nod along with everything happening around you and reason all the facts to unintentional incidents/accidents when things happen between your favorite relations.
    the problem starts when you want to know(more), converse(more), and interact(more) but things drift off. You spend more energy trying to understand, reason, and be proactive in every movement. 

There's always a line and limit to which you can try to silence your mind's voice or suppress that uneasy feeling. The harder the pain, the stronger will be dose

Do not spend your time understanding everyone, pleasing every other person you meet.
There'll be more "perfectionists" in this imperfect world, more "predictors" in this unpredictable life. what you see is not what a person totally made of. most of the time what they say/feel might be unreal.

It's okay to be looked at as "insane", and "bad" now and then. Normalize the thought "It's okay".Just learn and let go. 

Remember,
the smallest bird can cause heavy planes to crash, the tiny hole can sink the mighty boat, Strong things break, and hardest relations break. Our life is so fragile yet we still fight to have the strongest fort!!

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